# 10: Using your voice to declare your desires, accept real love, and escape co-dependent validation loops w/ Nicola Navon
Your voice is meant to be used so that your desires can be heard and responded to accordingly.
By your lover and laws of It All.
But for that to happen, it’s essential to understand why no one seems to be listening.
Have you ever stood in the kitchen after a long day and pondered how easy it seems for your mate to plop down on the couch, scroll mindlessly through SM, and watch the game while their dinner is prepared by a personal chef just feet away?
“Must be nice,” you think to yourself.
But also, there must be a reason for this dynamic.
Cue the rigorous honesty…
How many times have you voiced that you’d love some help with the food prep so you can get done quicker and have more time to do literally anything else than cook?
How often have you allowed him (or her) to stand next to you at the counter and chop imperfect onion bits or peel cucumbers and potatoes?
And how often does he (or she) ask you for “help”?
To be his partner, to love him, to hug him, to hold his hand and kiss him?
The truth is, you might say you want to be held, embraced, and cared for, but if you don’t ask for these things, you don’t have the opportunity.
You might say you want money, clients, and creative direction, yet realistically, if you don’t use your voice and ask for these things, you don’t allow yourself the opportunity.
But why?
Why would we ever hesitate to ask for the multi-dimensional abundance this world has to offer?
And more importantly, how do we open ourselves up to accepting it like the partner who accepts homecooked meals four times a week without hesitation?
This is precisely what we cover in today’s episode of The Modern Day Healer podcast.
Join Nicola Navon and me as we explore the topic of using your voice to declare what you really want, allowing yourself to become open enough to receive, and not getting caught in old worthiness validation loops amid your journey home to your authentic self.
You know there’s more waiting out there for you.
All you need is a path, and this episode is a gorgeous place to start (if I do say so myself)!
See you inside.
🖤 Dana
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